I’m not PLAYING!!

I heard my four year old say this to his older brother the other day and his words hit me like a dagger to the heart but not for any reason you might think. In his precious little mind, he’s just not playing. He’s out. He’s no longer in the game. He has now removed himself. He impishly stormed off …

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Are you acting for tomorrow?

I’ve been working on the next book for the last eight months or so and, as with everything I write, I’ve gone through all my usual library of negative self-talk. “I can’t do it” – “It’s too much” – “It’s too complex” – “It’s CRAP!” And on and on and on it goes. Each day I engage with myself, often …

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So YOU’RE tired, eh?

“I’m tired”. I occasionally find that slippery statement fall out of my mouth every now and again. You probably do too. It’s invariably when I’ve had one of those days. When I’m just done, I’ve had enough of whatever life I’ve made for myself and I want a break, some kind of respite from the press or the madness of it all. …

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Unfuck yourself in 1, 2, 3…

Unfuck yourself in 1…2…3…. I often get messages from people who want to change their lives or are working on changing their lives or that they just CAN’T change their lives. Many ask for help or advice on how they can “Unfuck” themselves. Here it is… Unfucking yourself isn’t a thing. It’s not a linear process with a beginning and an end, in fact …

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Drama, drama, drama

Most of us have an idea of what drama in our lives looks like, right? I mean it’s when you lose your shit, pull down the curtains, make yourself a dress and set the house on fire…or something to that effect. That’s the problem with drama. It’s not always that obvious although if you’re setting fire to stuff you should …

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Be Authentic

“Be Authentic” But what does that really mean? The dictionary says “ true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character, genuine”. All of that seems pretty straightforward, huh? I mean when someone annoys you or betrays you or behaves in a way that you don’t think is right, it’s completely fine to “be authentic” and give them what they have coming …

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Toxic People

“Toxic People”, “Toxic Person”, “They’re Toxic” You’ve seen these terms bandied around social media, books, workshops, you name it, they have very much become common language in our everyday conversations and environments. And that’s a problem. Why? Because, if you are using these terms, you’re just not thinking. Period. Look, this isn’t a judgement of you if you are using …

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Why “the asterisk”

Why “The Asterisk”? In case you haven’t noticed there’s an asterisk in the title of my book and we at Unfu*k Nation thought it would be kinda cool to continue that fine tradition. Oh yeah, and while I’m at it, an asterisk is a symbol used to mark or signify something. In this case a “life marker”. What I’m out …

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