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I often get messages from people who want to change their lives or are working on changing their lives or that they just CAN'T change their lives. Many ask for help or advice on how they can "Unfuck" themselves. Here it is...

Unfucking yourself isn't a thing. It's not a linear process with a beginning and an end, in fact quite the opposite in many ways. There's no "Unfuckedville" at the end of the rainbow and all you have to do is get there. Basically, Unfucking Yourself is a way of life. It's a constant interruption, of re-focus and re-alignment, of catching yourself in those moments when you're about to do what you usually do and condemn yourself to the same old, same old life you have.

Whether it's losing your temper or selling out on your get-out-of-debt plan or eating that shit you know you shouldn't or backing away from saying "sorry" when you know you should or being honest when compelled to lie. You could, quite literally, Unfuck your way through an entire day and change the direction of your week, month, year, hell maybe even your entire life.

Start with something small, right now take an action that would be the kind of action, no matter how pointless it may seem, that is a complete interruption to the mudslide of your current life. Step in there. Do it differently. 

Drive past the drive-thru instead of into it, tell someone you love them instead of giving them your silence, cut up one credit card, put on the running gear and go, ask someone out on a date...something, ANYTHING!

Go ahead, pick something for today. Unfuck it.



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Most of us have an idea of what drama in our lives looks like, right? I mean it's when you lose your shit, pull down the curtains, make yourself a dress and set the house on fire...or something to that effect.

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"Be Authentic"

But what does that really mean? The dictionary says " true to one's own personality, spirit, or character, genuine". All of that seems pretty straightforward, huh? I mean when someone annoys you or betrays you or behaves in a way that you don't think is right, it's completely fine to "be authentic" and give them what they have coming to them, right? Whether it's a piece of your mind, or your own brand of truth or candor or calling it for what it "is".


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